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Many of us learn to speak to ourselves in such a harsh voice. A voice we’d never use with the people around us, because we know it would hurt them and undermine their confidence. So why do we use it with ourselves? During your life, you might have had a critical parent, partner or friend. They might have picked at your every word, the things you liked, or they might have unpredictably punished you. Over time, you might learn to internalise this - so that you can behave accord

When you’re stuck in life, it can feel like there’s no way forward. You might feel weighed down, stuck in the mud, and unable to move. Perhaps you can see things out there that you’d like to do, but it’s so much effort to get there and things are so heavy.  I know. I’ve been there. It’s usually a combination of things that are keeping you in place. So it’s probably going to take a combination of things to get you unstuck.  Here’s a few ways to work with stuckness: 🙉 How are

🖤🩶🤍💜 Queerness (and therapy!) can be about living creatively, and that includes creating ways of relating to others that suits who we...

Anger is an important emotion. It tells us when our boundaries have been crossed, it tells us about our values and our pain, it tells us...

Starting a journal can feel like a lot! But I’m gonna break it down to an easy, 1-minute journal habit.  ☀️ Great if you’re struggling,...

If you have a history of trauma, you might be struggling with your mental health. This kind of background can massively affect how you...

If you have ADHD, you may find that planning and executing tasks can be a challenge. It can feel disappointing to fall short of task...

As I’m specialising in ADHD, I am always learning new ways to support my clients in therapy. There are always so many things to write on...

I specialise in working with queer people, although I do work with straight people too. It can feel really different to work with a queer...

So many of us struggle with procrastination, and we can be really self-critical about it. ‘I'm so lazy! I still haven’t done it, I’m a...

As a therapist, people often ask me how I keep myself well, while listening to experiences of trauma. It’s a tricky skill but it can be...

I use goal setting in my therapy practice, so that clients and I can make sure we cover what matters. So what are mental health goals?...

Sometimes, we may find ourselves stuck in bed. Lately it’s been called bedrotting - capturing the judgment that we are ‘rotting away’ in...

When I think about ‘getting outside of my comfort zone’, I feel afraid. Doing things that I’ve not done before? Risking making mistakes?...

'Self care' is a term that comes up a lot. And if it works for you, keep it up! Every pathway is different, and you’ve gotta use the...

It’s important for therapists to meet you where you’re at, and to move with you as you change and expand your idea of self.

Conflict can feel scary, but disagreements happen in most long term personal relationships. Whether it’s a partner, a friend, family...

Break ups, job loss, friendship loss, illness, grief. When I’ve gone through times of change, I used to feel lost and overwhelmed. Over...

Boundaries is a buzzword lately, but how do we set boundaries - and will it be difficult? Here’s a few ideas to get you thinking: 🌱...

I have to admit: I didn’t want to write this week. I thought I’d get my writing started this week, get back into the swing of things. But...